tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post1292541442618785385..comments2024-03-06T09:52:38.818-05:00Comments on TriadSmartyPants: Let's Get Ready to Rumble!Triad Smarty Pantshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01484653709117330420noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-61687526025683584532010-04-09T16:07:47.029-04:002010-04-09T16:07:47.029-04:00More than anything, you all have made me feel bett...More than anything, you all have made me feel better since your kids seem to argue, too! I will definitely check out the 1, 2, 3 Magic. I have heard of it before, but haven't yet read it. Thanks for the tips everyone!Rachel Hnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-765733550344478472010-04-09T16:01:19.076-04:002010-04-09T16:01:19.076-04:00We've had good luck with the book 1,2,3 Magic....We've had good luck with the book 1,2,3 Magic. I highly recommend finding it at a used book store and giving it a try. All I have to say is "thats one" and my three year old usually gives up and ends the fight. Its not a cure all but it gives good strategies and it has helped me keep my cool. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-22058519757687443962010-04-09T09:17:18.794-04:002010-04-09T09:17:18.794-04:00Kelly! Best comment , Love it Love it.. And Mary w...Kelly! Best comment , Love it Love it.. And Mary when you solve the 18mnth old problem please share. My youngest has developed a shrill ear piercing shriek, and a vocabulary of words that range from NO, MINE MY TURN, NO TOUCH, MOVE. MORE. STOP and MAAA MAAA when these words fail her she hits or pulls their hair. I think she might be trying to establish her dictatorship.Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17648541558878208069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-69456843644249673372010-04-08T17:41:19.330-04:002010-04-08T17:41:19.330-04:00Just remember that they aren't just fighting. ...Just remember that they aren't just fighting. They are establishing pecking order. : ) But at least they are engaging with each other—they want each other's company but they don't know how to negotiate it yet. Wouldn't it be sad if they just ignored each other? At least, that's what I tell myself...Kelly G.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-51418364831045635682010-04-08T17:35:04.792-04:002010-04-08T17:35:04.792-04:00I have three girls - 7, 5, 7 2. Same story. They...I have three girls - 7, 5, 7 2. Same story. They bicker, yell, and intentionally annoy each other constantly. They are also best buddies and are deeply concerned about each other. Unfortunately, I have no suggestions, but I do share your frustration!Lisa Witherspoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12530852104410009597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-16453015400762926942010-04-08T15:15:55.306-04:002010-04-08T15:15:55.306-04:00Loved this read...brings a smile to your face when...Loved this read...brings a smile to your face when you feel commenality w/ others. My siblings & I fought as soon as we exited the womb. Gotta tell you that went on until we were in our 20's when we got to be more "friends". Now its more of a silent competition but I guess that's why we are given sibling, competitive rivalry can be a good thing...spurs us to do things we wouldn't normally (in a good way hopefully!) Hang in there!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00218071260644450675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-52209452374983180362010-04-08T13:57:37.824-04:002010-04-08T13:57:37.824-04:00I could have written this post, except mine are 3....I could have written this post, except mine are 3.5 (boy) and 18 months (girl). They bicker and fight all day long - how is that possible when one of them doesn't even have words yet??? I know how it's possible. Lots of yelling...and, it started the day she realized she could taunt him and get under his skin (how do they learn that SO YOUNG?!). Before that, the taunting was only one way...payback brother...tenfold. <br /><br />Sigh...No advice, just commiserating and watching this post like it's on fire. I hope there is *something* out there that will spark an idea for us!!! I am having a hard time with it also b/c I didn't have siblings growing up and this is def a head turning experience for me...Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12603385271093431748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-13668660961582329802010-04-08T08:32:38.380-04:002010-04-08T08:32:38.380-04:00We have boy/girl twins that are five, a three year...We have boy/girl twins that are five, a three year old son and a one year old girl. I have tried a few things that have lessened the fighting, but of course not eliminated it. The most effective has been when at least one of the older kids is involved I envoke the work it out and treat each other respectfully or all parties are removed. I give them another chance and if it continues involved parties are sent to their rooms, or the disputed item is removed. In the case that the children are sent to their rooms I meet with each one and talk to them about what is making it difficult to be loving to their sibling, help them reach a conclusion about what they can change and encourage/support them in making it right with the other child.<br /><br />When the baby is involved, I repeat the rule, Generally it is "No Hit, or Show Brother Nice" and Put her in time out, and following time out, have her hug the injured/annoyed party. This works with a one year old for about 5 minutes. <br /><br />With the three year old it is sometimes one way and sometimes the other depending on his exhaustion and remorse level. Sometimes he is more upset that he has been unkind than the party he offended. <br /><br />Our kids struggle with what I call deviling one another, enticing another child to make a bad choice. We talk frequently about not being a stumbling block to others, But it PAINS me to watch them manipulate one another in this way. Any tips for this?Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17648541558878208069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-44497028165905726802010-04-08T07:21:50.073-04:002010-04-08T07:21:50.073-04:00Rach! Totally with you on this one. My sister and ...Rach! Totally with you on this one. My sister and I still go at it, even though we love each other to pieces. Anyone who is friends with me on FB sees it firsthand! And by the way, if someone has kids who don't fight (and I am talking about the same "fighting" you are talking about) then I would not attribute it to good parenting. My guess is there's something wrong with those kids!!! :)maythihttp://www.rollupthemess.comnoreply@blogger.com