tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post6287890644259943896..comments2024-03-06T09:52:38.818-05:00Comments on TriadSmartyPants: The "How We Do It" SeriesTriad Smarty Pantshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01484653709117330420noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-53567623034067523842009-10-22T11:16:06.271-04:002009-10-22T11:16:06.271-04:00Honestly, I struggle every day when I leave my 2 y...Honestly, I struggle every day when I leave my 2 year old at home with my husband or mother in law as I go to work. I enjoy my work but I love my kids more and being a full-time working mom was not what I had envisioned for my life. I struggle with feelings of sadness, guilt and jealousy/resentment towards my husband who gets to stay at home with our 2 year old every day. At the end of the day, I have to just remind myself that I am fortunate to be ABLE to pay my bills and at least I know my son being cared for by people who love him. On the other hand, my husband REFUSES to split up the chores more evenly and is unable to get a higher paying job so that I could stay home. I am so tired at the end of the day that it is hard to get into PLAY mode with my kids and I struggle with trying to split up quality time between my 2 children. I wonder how others deal with these issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-31225424591463709242009-10-16T16:16:13.356-04:002009-10-16T16:16:13.356-04:00Wow, this is a subject that REALLY is near and dea...Wow, this is a subject that REALLY is near and dear to me! Since my 7 year old was born, I have been trying to cut my hours at work!! I also have a 4 year old, by the way! I work 4 days a week, and honestly, I feel like that is TOO much! I have missed sooooo many important moments with my children, and I look at them today and say "man, where did the time go?" You can NEVER get that time back, and I have to say I regret not being able to work less!! Happily, (and hopefully) I'll be cutting back my hours to 20 by the end of this year, thanks to my husband finally finishing graduate school and becoming gainfully employed. this will give me the best of both worlds. Hopefully, I won't be sooo exhausted all of the time, and I'll still have MY outlet! but I have to say to all news moms, if you don't just HAVE to work, in order to eat and feed you family, DON'T DO IT!!!! It is more stressful than you can imagine!! Not to mention the guilt!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-53592062286511707562009-10-16T16:06:33.890-04:002009-10-16T16:06:33.890-04:00Really enjoyed this blog today. I am a working mo...Really enjoyed this blog today. I am a working mom and have been for the past 6 years. I really love my job, but still feel like I am trying to do it all. I need to find a happy medium. I look forward to the other blogs from this series! And by the way, I love all your blogs, even if they are not solely focused on the working group! :-)Liznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-26606899780090413452009-10-16T11:10:23.359-04:002009-10-16T11:10:23.359-04:00i thought i would definitely go back to work. but,...i thought i would definitely go back to work. but, after my first was born, there was NO way i could. work would have been an "outlet" for sure. staying home 24-7 isn't for everyone, but then again, neither is having kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8702413611645203439.post-4883994146174588482009-10-16T07:24:41.251-04:002009-10-16T07:24:41.251-04:00I am struggling with the idea right now of whether...I am struggling with the idea right now of whether or not to return to work. You made me feel much better about the possibility of going back to my job. I enjoy staying at home, too. Such a tough choice!<br />Enjoyed this post. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com